about certain issues before forming an opinion, but of late i realized the massive commonness of cohabiting amongest we youths; something we could excuse on the shallow morals of the times. Its a normality for those lacking the courage of serious commitment or putting it in clearer terms the perfect standards for the deviant ones.
As you know I won't pen down any issue if its not talk worthy, i meant real issues eroding our cultural standards, and we as a people are so quick to shift blames to the legend of westernization and i believe that song is so old now; its the song of Hypocrisy.
I could not help but wonder how this problem became so deeply rooted in our society than to nail the dice from where it all started. I was almost shocked when i found out after asking that cohabiting is also a very common anomaly amongst older people; The middle aged.
I got to see clearer pixels of that ugly picture when i was discussing with a male friend about a month ago. When i thought i had seen enough of pity party chronicles, his details were so revealing that i went hazy for minutes, but it wasn't my story, so i had to act all put together because i wanted to hear more revealing details.
My friend told me there are lot of elder couples that have been living together for decades without proper marriage; Yes the ones you least expect, they have grown-ups even grand kids but are still yet to pay their bride price or give their marriage any legal backing!
I don't even know who should answer the 'What have you done?' question between the man or the woman.This is no celebrity 'Davido Chioma' love story, it's about the sobering ordeals women face over the years of cohabiting with unwillingly reluctant men.
What is more disheartening is the shame these women face when eventually they pass on in that man's house. Even in death, the bickering and sorrow that goes on within the two families if that tragedy happens is Fire!. Deep seated hatred that swallows the humane side of the woman's family towards the man is better left unimagined.
He went as far as telling me that where he comes from such man will pay double her Bride price. That's aside the money he'll use for her funeral and the problems that may arise from the church if he is a Senior worker, Elder or even Pastor. Some churches at this side of the divide, will not tolerate this and will suspend the man right away no matter his position or his level of contributions to the development of the church!.
You geeking out like a happy single lady, enjoying responsibly the fun and opportunity that comes with Spinsterhood and they don't seem to understand the joy that comes with 'waiting on God' or they most times pretend to be happy covering up for the man with lies on social media
like we see so commonly these days.
Sometimes they even jolt you with the usual question of "what are you waiting for?" or common snide remarks of "Age is not on your side!". I'm almost shocked because am looking at them and wondering how they manage to hold so much confusion and unhappiness without losing their sanity.
If their definition of marriage is that situation they are in
i want no part of it. Singles especially 'young never been married ladies' don't be fooled by the lies they sell to you on social media, majority cry behind that fake face they're putting up.
Being too desperate and lowering your standards too early, will only make you hit ground zero level before you realize it. Ensure you be friends with him first so as to weed out his true intentions, this advice also applies for responsible men.
The pride that comes with a man pushing for the marriage to happen and him fulfilling every marital obligation before moving into his house cannot be overemphasized.The honour this brings to your parents and you especially is what makes the man and his family respect you.
As a young man coming up in life don't get too attached to a woman you do not really love under the guise of friendship, it is an irresponsible thing to do. You may believe that are playing smart by having your way with legions of ladies, the freedom of choice has nothing to do with the repercussions that you are postponing.
Lastly support yourself with prayers from time to time, because it's only God through the Holy spirit that can accomplish the dreams you really desire.
Singles please be Wise!.
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Writer: Babatunde Jacob Modupe
Publisher: Emmolyineblog
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