1).He's the NICE GUY that treats you the same way he treats everyone else....
Turnoff---- Deceit
When a guy is into you he feels differently about you than others because he wants something, so he doesn't want to do anything that will make you have wrong beliefs about him. He is more relaxed around you and is very careful not to hurt your feelings. The nice guy is not trying or pushing in anyway for your attention, either by hanging around you or regular phone calls to keep you company and check on your general well being, he doesn't even make efforts as cheap as social media chats, then the picture is clear- He doesn't prioritize you. Most definitely you are with a time waster, he may even be generous to you, as he is with everyone around him, don't let that confuse you his heart is somewhere else!...
2). THE BUSY GUY
Turn Offs---- Prioritizes his career responsibilities, his approach to relationships is less enthusiastic......
This is another very common type of time waster who never makes any tangible impact in his relationship, if you are unfortunate to land him as a partner. Yes as expected responsible adults must have an amount of time they're investing to support their earning capacity, but this busy guy is different because he creates the belief that he's more occupied than even the President of his country, simply because he does not see you as a priority at all. Don't be naive, if he is always making excuses as to why he's not returning your calls or even making arrangements after you have challenged him about it several times. If he is finding it super cumbersome to spend time with you even on phone under the guise of being busy, he clearly shows no interest at investing time, effort or energy to make something tangible from the relationship--Simply put you are intangible to him, make that necessary U-turn now before your rainbow turns grey!...
3). The Flirty Guy
Turn Offs----Chronic Womanizer, Lies....
He is the smooth type that compliments you the same way he does with every other girl, the flirty body language is the same for every other girl and he makes this so obvious as possible for even the blind to notice. Their is no clear indication that he wants to be with you, he is non nonchalant and not super interested in getting to know you better, he acts like that because he simply sees a woman as a sexual conquest to attain, after that nothing!..
These signs are strong pointers that you are with a flirt. If he has too many women either on his contact list or circle of association that he refers to as 'Just friends' then you had better be careful and investigate quickly to discern his stance. Don't entertain thoughts that you can change him or make him come around or even chase you. You will only be deceiving yourself as flirty guys have legions of admirers they can pick from, you are just another 'option' like several other unfortunate women he is deceiving.....
4). The Self Righteous Guy:
TurnOffs: Emotional Immaturity, Pride.
This man is the predatory type you don't want to cross, because of his selfcentred and highhanded approach towards the women in his life. His notion of a 'good woman' is that of a 'plastic immaculate lady' that must bend to his tastes, with no self esteem or ugly pasts and this means relationship experience. Even if she's been around she must have only had just two exes and nothing more. He believes and potrays any woman who reacts by complaning about his irrational and erratic behaviour as simply arrogant and uncontrollable. His orientation is child-like and he handles his relationship with the familiar know-it-all approach, the exact way he approaches his colleagues at work. He is never wrong, always right because he situates his partners in all his relationships as beneath him.
If you are unfortunate to be his partner your self esteem is on the line, because he is ever willing to throw it under the bus for selfish reasons. The elements of surprises he pulls up is worrisome, if he's not overly critical about your weaknesses under the guise of 'correction', he is an emotional weakling that cannot take responsibilities of his actions.
He is always blaming you most times for his own mistakes he blames you for not making the relationship as fantastic as he expects even when his absence is apparent--No effort, no time or emotional investment from his end. If your sense of discernment is very weak you'll easily fall for his time wasting gimmicks, and be lowering your standards even to ground level.
The self righteous guy is an emotionally broken guy that is only interested in situating every woman in his life as 'beneath' him. When you confront him about the future of the relationship, he's quick to sing the sick tones of his 'complaints', he tells you what you did wrong or should have done to make him love you better.
Even when cheating rumors are flying around from different angles even from your friends. Relationship with him is neither black nor white because, he is the generous type that uses money as a mind control tool to arrest his partners.
One thing you notice months into the relationship with Mr Self righteous is that you become a shadow of your old confident self and your present priority is to please him even at your expense because he's succeeded at brainwashing you to believe that your feelings are less important. If you don't want him to change you to an emotional wreck like himself, watch out for these signs I've mentioned and ease out of that situation before you end up with too many regrets!....
5). The Unstable guy:
Turn offs---Deceit, Womanizing.
The unstable guy loves too easily, same applies to his love life, his interests in relationships is clearly not defined because he's cultivated and mastered the habit of swinging dramatically and swiftly from one lady to another- Simply put he lacks the sexual maturity to sustain a promising relationship.
He is different from a flirt who makes his unfaithful stance clear from the start, because he is superb at deceit. An unstable man is clearly a bad choice for any sane woman because of his deceit and unpredictability.
When he's around you he creates the impression that he's that wonderful guy that is totally willing to walk you down the aisle, tomorrow on the phone he is sounding like a stranger- he tells you will make a better wife for another man.
You can't put a hold on his decisions- he's seeing other women, yet he wants you to be faithful....
In conclusion you should believe that you are a very valuable woman and there is someone special out there waiting to treat you like the queen that you are!....
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